As we grow and mature, our focus is less inward and becomes more diffuse. There is a sense of empathy for fellow man, that leads to charity. This is an antonym to selfishness. Along our journey to becoming a man, we strive to develop honesty, security, and conformation to societal norms. Emotional security has stabilized, and empathy toward others develops. We feel able to give back some of what we have obtained, as either teaching, , helping, or supporting others in their endeavors. One caveat that I have noticed is that some who choose not to help themselves, may not benefit much from helping them, rather they are content to be beggars, for lack of a better word. The causation of such behavior and attitudes is beyond the scope of the current discussion. There is personal satisfaction in helping others, which helps develop a sense of self-worth and avoid selfishness. These are ideals to which to strive. It enhances the goal of becoming a man.